All the questions you should ask the guy that you're having a 'Rishta' meeting with
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Last updated on - Nov 28, 2019, 12:49 IST01/12Meeting a guy for your 'Rishta'? Ask him these questions
We can all wave our flags and claim we're independent and can manage on our own but if there's one thing that we Indians will never get rid of it is an arranged marriage concept. And to be honest, it's not really a bad thing. The only difference is that in this concept of 'dating', your parents are also involved. But then obviously when you're meeting someone for the first time, things are going to be a little awkward. However, you must also remember that you might potentially end up spending the rest of your life with this person which is why you must ask him all the right questions. Just make sure to have an honest heart to heart and you'll see what can work best for you.
02/12Where do you see yourself in five years
We know this seems like a very job-oriented question but when you ask him this it'll give you an idea about what his goals for the future are. And this, in turn, will tell you whether your goals are compatible with him or not.
03/12What's the most exciting thing in your life right now
This one actually works great as an ice breaker and also gives you an idea about the type of person he is. For example, if he says something about sports you'll know he's an active person or if he talks about his job you'll know he's career-oriented. It'll help you figure out if your interests match his.
04/12What do you do when you're bored?
This will actually tell you a lot about him because he'll end up telling you how he spends a day when he's bored. If he gets bored easily then he'll probably just give you vague answers but if he has some hobbies or passions that he takes up, it can be interesting because you might have the same interests too.
05/12Tell me about your best friends
This will give you a good idea about the kind of people he surrounds himself with. If he's the type of person who has a bunch of close friends he can depend on then you know he has a good support system and people who actually love him and care for him.
06/12What do you think your routine will be like after marriage?
Ask him details about his daily routine and you’ll get answers towards his work timings, his priorities, his meal and sleeping habits. You can tell a lot about where you will fit in through these answers.
07/12Have you ever lived on your own?
The reply will show whether he is highly dependent on people or can manage day to day living on his own. It’s also a clue into the kind of household contribution you can expect him to make. Someone who knows how to fold their clothes and iron them too - that’s a rare match and a good one!
08/12What is the one thing you are never going to compromise on?
Whether it’s honesty or loyalty, this is one supremely important question which you should be prepared to answer too! This spells out pain from the past and wisdom for the future and is a great direction to go in since it establishes ground rules!
09/12So, who is the closest to you in your family?
One of the best things you can ask him to get him to open up would be who he's closest to in his family. This way he'll tell you some stuff about his family and what they're like so you know what to expect from them in the future. Plus, you'll understand what kind of dynamics he shares with the people around him and that'll tell you a lot.
10/12What do you do outside of work?
This is just a polite way of asking him what his hobbies are. You obviously already know what his work is but you could still ask him that and then follow up with this question. This way you'll get to know what his interests are and whether his interests match with yours in any way.