Resolutions that are bound to improve your love life
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Last updated on - Jul 26, 2018, 12:38 IST01/7Relationship advice: All the secrets to a successful relationship
Fed up of seeing loved-up couples all over your Instagram? Fed up of spotting ‘#relationshipgoals’ everywhere because you aren’t happy about the relationship you are in? According to a professional matchmaker, Caitlin Cooper it's often the tiny, seemingly inconsequential habits that are our biggest obstacles. Here are the resolutions she asks one to take for a sound and a happy love life.
02/7Stop with ‘all the good ones are taken’
Most times than not, our thoughts become reality. And even a passing negative thought could potentially become the truth. Instead of ranting about ‘all the good ones’ being ‘taken’, change the narrative and say, ‘there are great partners out there. And when it’s time, I'll meet mine."
03/7I resolve to be proactive about dating
You might have been told, "When you stop looking for love, it just happens." However, that always doesn’t hold true, especially if you don’t have much of a social life. Diversify your portfolio and try to make new friends. Go out and ensure you say ‘hi’ to a couple of new people every week. Learning what works best for you will improve your odds of getting dates.
04/7I allow to let the attraction grow
Stop with wanting to feel ‘sparks’ on the first date. Like most things, sometimes, physical attraction takes time to develop and there is nothing wrong about it. Chemistry can and does grow, but only if you allow it to. If you enjoy somebody’s company then let things go from there.
05/7I will stop comparing my relationship to ones on social media
No relationship is perfect. And the ones that seem like they have it all going for them and are seemingly perfect are always the ones to suffer later on. Social media only shows edited versions of most things, including relationships and hence, you have got to stop comparing yours to ones out there. It’s a waste of time and highly unrealistic.
06/7I will stop judging people online before meeting with them
Dating apps might not all be rosy but many times they help in finding the one. It’s a pool of people right at your fingertips. Do not dismiss the idea and do not judge people from how they seem online. Meet them and then make a decision. (Stay safe and always pick public areas to meet).
07/7I will end my relationships with kindness
If you have been ‘ghosting’ people, you have got to stop now! It will leave them feeling angry and very confused. Honesty only hurts for a minute, but the effects of silent rejection can last for a lifetime. Be gracious, truthful, and clear about why you cannot go ahead with a certain relationship. This will help soothe you and your soon-to-be ‘ex’.